Tiny Eden

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Mind you manners!

Why do people have to be rude, inconsiderate, and think that they are better than others?
Why is it so difficult for people to share their knowledge with others and help other people out?
Why do people have to be jealous of others and just plain mean?

One thing that REALLY, REALLY ticks me off is when people think that they are better than other people. You know, it is good to have high self-esteem, but there is such a thing as self-esteem that is TOO high. There is absolutely no excuse for yelling at people when someone asks for help, asks a question, or does something incorrectly and another person's life does not depend on it. For example, if I accidentally put a picture frame in the wrong spot, yelling is unacceptable. That is just trying to make it look like you have more power than you do, so you want to look big and bad. You don't have to worry about looking big and bad with your personality - look in the mirror. Your inside shows through to your exterior. Congrats! You have now displayed your insecurities for all to see. Now, if I accidentally give the incorrect patient 3 times the required dose of morphine, please yell at me. That is something important. Get my drift, people?

Today, I was watching Oprah and the show was dedicated to manners. The author of the book "Choosing Civility" stated that we often shift our insecurities onto others in the form of rudeness. When you are feeling the urge to be rude you should ask yourself, "Are you comfortable with who you are and what you have accomplished?" Sometimes it is dissatisfaction with ourselves that makes us judge others unfairly. Make sure that you are not projecting onto others the least attractive traits you perceive in yourself.

Now, onto my next irking. Don't criticize what other people watch or read. Unless the person is making you watch it or read it, mind your business. I am sorry that we can't all be incredibly intellectual and watch the history channel and read all of the Pulitzer Prize winners. It does not make you better than me......TRUST ME!!!! I have my nose in nursing textbooks almost 24/7. If I want to watch Jon and Kate Plus 8 and read US Weekly, keep your comments to yourself. Magazines geared towards women, such as Cosmo, Elle, and Marie Claire are not degrading towards women. If a woman feels the need to emulate everything that is in that magazine and has a skewed vision that they need to purchase every item advertised and every outfit featured, then the problem lies a WHOLE lot deeper than the magazine. That is called an identity crisis. Personally, I find some rap songs and their videos to be degrading, so I just don't listen to them. Take the Superman song for example. Not cute, not funny. Something that I do not want to pollute my brain with. I find that to be a whole lot more degrading than someone giving me her opinion as to what face product she likes.

Cut the rudeness, people! It is bad for your health and just plain ugly. According to Dr. .Forni, author of "Choosing Civility", "The quality of our lives is about treating each other well in every situation. We are all the trustees of one another's happiness and well-being in life." In other words, we are all responsible for each other's happiness to some extent. Dr. Forni also states that being rude has an effect on some of the body's hormones, such as cortisol, that can cause the immune system to be weaker. His example: "If you have a boss that you perceive to be unfair, you're much more likely to have cardiovascular disease." The bottom line? Going through life rude and angry can make you sick.

How rude are you? Find out at: http://www.oprah.com/dated/oprahshow/oprahshow_20080909_rude

"Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods." Albert Einstein

"In today's environment, hoarding knowledge ultimately erodes your power. If you know something very important, the way to get power is by actually sharing it." Joseph Badaracco

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